We sit basking in the present moment wondering what tomorrow will bring us; will it be joyful, will it be so-so, or will it be dreadful? It’s our perception and attitude that defines how we start our tomorrows. We can either wake up with a clean slate or allow our mind to punch holes into the canvas and create unneeded obstacles. We could pace around a room playing out every scenario anticipating the bad in someone, or we could be live in the joyous pursuit of life and happiness. Are you going through something that seems mountainous or daunting? Does it feel like you are at the bottom of a mountain looking up and wondering how in the world are you going to be able to climb this massive behemoth? Do you sit there dwelling on how hard this is going to be, how much effort and time it will take? What do you do next, do you just walk away and forget about it or do you figure a way to overcome the obstacle?
Let me offer you a few steps to help you:
- DON’T TACKLE THE ENTIRE “MOUNTAIN!!!” TAKE IT STEP BY STEP – Break it down into sections, you need to be able to have small wins or micro-goals. If your goal is to lose 100 pounds, start by focusing on losing 5 pounds. Let’s look at this inversely, you are not at your current weight magically overnight, you gained it over time, pound by pound. Conversely, expect not to find a magic solution to lose it overnight. As Jonathan Haidt in The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom: “The psychologists Ken Sheldon and Tim Kasser have found that people who are mentally healthy and happy have a higher degree of “vertical coherence” among their goals — that is, higher-level (long-term) goals and lower-level (immediate) goals all fit together well so that pursuing one’s short-term goals advances the pursuit of long-term goals”. As my father always said, RELY ON THE KISS METHOD. Keep It Simple Stupid!
- Keep a consistent feedback loop – This could be a friend, a coach, a partner or some metric. You need someone to keep you in check. This level of accountability will keep you on track.
- Write it down! – Write your goal down and place it in a visible area that you can always see.
- Adjust! – You will have to adjust. Just remember that adjustments DO NOT EQUAL FAILURE! 5. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING: DON’T EVER GIVE UP!